Dear Annie,

Im very sorry about your hurt feelings:(
You just shouldnt go,you wont change anything believe me. You just remember excatly my relationship because after we fighted and he decided by message(whatsapp) that he dont feels anything,that its over. I had already booked the ticket to Rome because i wanted to make him a surprise,to say to him
That i was sorry and start all over again from the beginning but in that situation i told him that i booked the ticket to see him and he just said that i shouldnt go,because he is convinced that its over.Though i went and he waited for me in the airport buuuuuut it was horrible,staying at his home saying to him i was sorry all the time,feeling weak,he was cold,sleeping in the same bed and it was just like i was sleeping alone.He didnt touch even a hair. I felt like i was dead. So,dont do it! Move on,dont write anything to him,dont go there(im sorry that you spent your money because its not the right time) Give time to him if he change his mind,but the most important thing,give time to yourself.Dont stay and think how to get him back but think about yourself,you will find very soon someone else.Im very happy that you go out with friends,i will do the same because its been 3 months,crying,staying at home,panic,headache,being looser and stuff like that. So,tomorrow i’ll go to work,after work going for a drink and on weekend im going out at night. Enough,cant take it anymore. If he does not want you one time,you wont want him 10 times. You did everything you could but dont tread on yourself. Pleaseeeee! Stay calm. And if you have those bad feelings in weak moments, read this conversation or a link that i posted on Lunarforest,it will help you.
Looking forward to get your answer my friend.
Love Albana

Hey Jefferson,

First please you need to calm down and be more positive and have a high esteem about yourself.

Im really sorry about your situation in your family and of course with your Gf…

Did you read the entire converstation of mine with the other friends here? You have tried to make your relationship work but still she is not with you right? She may love you now and forever but in this kind of situation i think that would be better to let her go for a period. What she did,to block you from fb and change the number for me its a little bit immature(sorry to say that) Maybe she did this because she is angry or maybe she find this way to go away because she knows you love her very much and she knows you are going to say that by messages or phone calls ect. Please try to not be weak and whats more important dont be in front of her because you will lose the chance to come back with her(if in the future) Try to respect her desicion,think that you have done everything you could but dont tread on yourself. See,when i broke up with my boyfriend and he says to me all those bad words,inside of me i was just crushed but in front of him i tried not to cry too much and be diplomat.He gave up on me too but what can i do? IF you force things everything will be worst,BELIEVE ME!!!!
What you should do? hmmm,thats a very delicate question…1.DO NOT CONTACT HER(PLEASEEE DO THAT)
2. DO NOT ASK ABOUT HER 3. FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE,SCHOOL,FRIENDS,FAMILY.
When did you broke up with her??
Courage,you are young,you will have other chances to meet the right person.
In my first experience(your age) i have a 3 years relationship,i considered him love of my life the first and the last man but it turns out that he wasnt…He cheated on me,my friend told me that and do you know what i did??? we broke up by phone,i wished him all the best and neveeeeeeer contacted him. And do you know what happened? after a year he came to meet me,to see me though he was engaged with the same girl he cheated on me. He apologized and asked for a second chance but it was too late because i didnt feel nothing and i laughed because i knew that this would happened.So,you should do the same,LET HER GO AND MOVE ON,TIME HEALS EVERYTHING AND YOU ARE A VERY YOUNG BOY TO DESTROY YOURSELF.I know you are broken hearted and maybe my advices will not help you but if she moved on and found a new boyfriend what are you waiting for???

Goodmorning Lunarforest,

Im really sorry that your are in this situation but at least now you know what to do. Me,noooo…
I dont know why his mother tells me everytime i speak with her that i should wait him to calm down,his aunty says the same…
i really dont know whyyy:((( sometimes i think that the age difference that we have me26 and him 39 made all this.

Im at my office and cant stop thinking about me and him,and im really sorry that my boss noticed that.
The worst thing is that i feel that im the only person guilty in this relationship.
I remember when he said: i gave you a lot of chances but now i cannot give you anything, you were the one full of goodwill in the beginning but you always failed. TO FAIL its something that makes me more sad and makes me cry all the time.
it makes me think that im uncapable to keep a healthy relationship.
My esteem is 0.
I mean,i think that im a bad person who hurts people:(
But i do really wish to pass all this and be happy and smile again,and i wish the same to you and all the person who are in the same situation or worst…
WHEN I READ THE LINK BELOW I FEEL BETTER AT LEAST FOR A MOMENT,OR JUST FOR A DAY. HOPE THAT IT WILL HELP YOU ALSO…

Dealing with a Break Up and Learning from the Experience

Im really sorry Lunarforest,
But at least you got an answer though a bad one and i believe you felt bad.
What im wondering is that how come after all i cant talk bad about him,i wish all the best for him,i go to church and pray for him. For easter so i went to church and light a candle for him.
I guess you feel the same.you dont seem a person who applies the revenge…
About her birthday after you got this kind of answer do not wish her…as you said: it wont change anything. I think i will do the same and i hopeeee i wont change my mind.

Hey Lunarforest,
You are right but what it drives me crazy is that i did everything i could,i went there only to apologize as a grown up person but he got more angry and said all those things :((( i know i dont deserve that behaivor of him though i think was because he was still angry but what about now? Its been almost 3months and nothing.
When is mother asked him about us he answered: I’ve discussed with Alba. The last word that he said when i was there was: Grown up!!!!
Do you really think that the message wasnt correct? Do i have to tell to my parents that is over? Or should i wait a little more? On 16 of may its my birthday and i really hope that he can wish me.