From my very limited knowledge of both break ups and men… Men don’t do the let’s be friends thing, they can’t sit next to a woman they still desire and not have her while being intimate as friendships are. And they don’t see it as compliment or a comfort that an ex wants to be friends to them, it’s almost an insult eg. everything but the sex was good so can do all that stuff but not the sex bit, not necessary true but I think that’s how most perceive it. On the break up angle, not matter how much ex’s care for each other sometimes they actually need to be hurt, to be angry and go through all of the other emotions in order to process the break up and move on. You can’t comfort someone you’ve broken up with thats why its so painful. You did the right thing though, not uprooting him if you weren’t sure.