If he cant stay why did he decide to meet me when I asked. He didnt have to…I was just for sex and curiosity. He said after “thats much better”. Why come out if he was tired and hott and shared personal things i didnt ask for just to leave after and not talk again.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful message. It really helped me slow down and think about things from a different angle. I keep going over every little thing in my head, wondering if I caused him to shut down or disappear… but maybe you’re right. Maybe it wasn’t about me at all.

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone shows up with tenderness and then just… leaves. That moment meant a lot to me, and it’s confusing to think it could’ve been scary for him instead of meaningful. But I do see now that he might have been responding to something from his own past — something I couldn’t see or fix, even if I wanted to.

I’m still sitting with all of this, trying to figure out what to do with the ache of not knowing, and the hope that maybe it wasn’t all one-sided. I just want to be understood and not feel so lost in it. Your words made me feel a little more seen, so thank you again for taking the time.

Warmly,
Adalie

Thank you for putting into words what I’ve been struggling to explain. You’re right — it wasn’t just kindness, it was the way he noticed and honored little details about me, and how he encouraged me without trying to control me. That made me feel safe, capable, and seen in a way I haven’t in a long time.

What’s been so hard is that the same moment that felt sacred and empowering for me also seemed to be the end. I still don’t fully understand why he disappeared after that. Part of me wonders if he felt the connection was deeper than “casual” and it scared him, or if he’s just not in a place for emotional risk.

Maybe the very thing that made it so meaningful for me — that real tenderness, that feeling of being seen — is also what made him pull away. It’s painful, but I think you’re right that it showed me what I deserve to feel every day. I’m trying to hold onto that, even without him in my life.

I dont know where to start. Just that its been hard with my partner. I think he may have mental issues he isnt willing to get seen too by a doctor. My dad and I think he may actually be Bi Polar. But its been hard married 😕 I not feeling anything anymore. They dont always treat me well. They go between being nice and then rude and mean. I didnt intend to cheat or anything but that brief connection meant something or showed me something. It woke me up a bit.

Cant get him out of my head. Seems like he meant to be casual and made it something else. I think we both did without meaning too.

Short hair in that photo.

I understand but I could tell hes hurt from relationships and the one that is probably with him the hardest and hurt him the most and his other relationships piled on top. There was something there and he didnt wanna face it or handle it. Bummer because if I was fully available I could show him I understand snd be there for him. He wanted casual only and I accidentally gave more. I didnt mean to.