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September 24, 2019 at 1:33 pm #314073AshParticipant
Ok I can definitely do that.
I tend to keep my relationship matters to myself. I have two friends who I can talk to about things and they give pretty good insight.
Thanks again for the advice.
September 24, 2019 at 1:14 pm #314063AshParticipantBecause in the moment I didnāt think I was making a big deal out of it. After reading through all of it, I now understand where his responses to the situation are coming from. It wasnāt my intention to have a disagreement. I just hope he understands this and not think that he canāt talk to me.
September 24, 2019 at 12:59 pm #314055AshParticipantIt makes sense. Tough to hear but I understand.
September 24, 2019 at 12:39 pm #314045AshParticipantI hope this makes sense.
When he called the first time. He said….I felt uncomfortable at my friends house . Why? Because she (friend) has a friend at the house and most of the couples were married. Ok, so was your friend trying to hook you up with someone?…..No.
So here I was confused because Iām trying to piece together what heās talking about. It wasnāt direct to me.
The second conversation…..so why were you uncomfortable again?…..Because her friend was there and she was single. So, did your friend try to set you up with this woman? Yes, it made me uncomfortable and I left.
So in my mind Iām thinking….well why didnāt you just say that the first time??? Again, Iām confused. Iām wondering why he didnāt say yes the first time. I had to ask again to get clarity and received a different response……this is what I brought to his attention yesterday.
September 24, 2019 at 11:45 am #314023AshParticipantAlso, another reason I was confused was because he had been drinking and was talking in circles so I was getting bits and pieces of the story. I think this really played a part in the communication breakdown. I clearly know the difference in how he talks when heās sober.
I think Iām trying to find a balance on how to handle situations because Iāve had a history of running. We can agree to disagree but again dealing with him in this capacity is still fairly new for me. I just want things to be fair and balanced.
September 24, 2019 at 11:39 am #314021AshParticipantI didnāt get suspicious at someone trying to hook him up. That didnāt bother me as he and I talk about everything and we joke all the one about guys/girls that try to talk to us.
I was confused because the first time I asked him about it he said no. He did express that he was made uncomfortable about the situation but I didnāt completely understand why. When he discussed it again he said yes that someone had tried to hook him up but he didnāt like it and he left. I never felt he was hiding anything I just didnāt understand the conflicting details.
He believes that since he came out and told me he was uncomfortable that it shouldāve automatically eliminated any doubts. However, I tried to explain to him that I was confused.
December 29, 2018 at 5:12 am #271351AshParticipantThank you! I really appreciate it.
December 28, 2018 at 9:34 am #271287AshParticipantI sure will!!!!
Thanks again š
December 28, 2018 at 8:49 am #271275AshParticipantYou are absolutely right. I take the idea of marriage and children very seriously. I never want to go into anything that doesnāt align with my spirit (been there done that). Iāve learned a lot about myself this year and my mindset has changed a lot. What my mother thinks does weigh on me because sheās my mother. Weāre not as connected as we could be because I donāt believe she understands me. Iāve educated myself (Masters Degree), have my own company, homeowner, and these are things Iāve done independently. My mother did not accomplish these things but sheās been married for 35 years. So itās hard for us to relate. Instead of asking me āhowās the business going?ā Or āhowās the new home?ā Itās always questions and comments related to relationships.
Thanks for listening!
April 27, 2018 at 8:56 pm #204617AshParticipantHey everyone,
Just an update….I closed on my home and will be moving in soon. Iām so excited to have purchased my first home. I ended the relationship and it was the best thing I couldve ever done. I feel so much better now. I knew that relationship wasnāt for me and I was a little nervous to end it. Iām so happy I did. I did not want to bring that negativity into my new space. Iām enjoying life.
Iām also considering persuing my Doctorate. Life is great!!!
January 27, 2018 at 8:36 pm #189355AshParticipantThank you!
I will say itās been tough. I had to hear a lot of what I didnāt do. I know what I did and my intentions were pure. I knew deep in my heart it was best to end it. Ā He clearly didnāt see any of his wrongdoings. He got upset because I explained to him that he didnāt have to get himself fired.
He has has a lot of growing up to do. Pushing the age of 34 with 2 children and no stability doesnāt sound promising. I will continue to take care of myself and keep striving for greatness.
Thanks for all responses!
January 24, 2018 at 12:26 pm #188743AshParticipantSometimes itās hard to face what you already know.
January 24, 2018 at 12:24 pm #188739AshParticipantThanks for the responses!
I think Iāve done my fair share and itās best that I move on. I have too much going for myself to allow myself to get stuck in a situation like this especially when itās repeated itself. Heās shown me that being responsible is not a priority of his and I canāt make him see it.
Mark, I read over what I wrote and if it was my friend I would tell her to let it go and move on.
Thank you!
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