Thank you everyone for sharing your stories and perspective. I really enjoyed reading each and every story. You don’t know how much better I feel already.
I guess this situation hits home for me because I grew up in a divorced household. My parents had a very toxic marriage, and even well after their divorce they never could never get along. 10 years have passed since their divorce, and still to this day they argue when they are together in the same room and constantly have negative things to say about each other. This constant arguing and negative energy has taken a huge emotional tole on me, and it has taken me years of counseling and healing to get passed. Although my past situations and experiences have made me into the strong, independent person I am today and I would never change anything that has happened to me, I still feel I could have avoided a lot of suffering if my parents could have let go of the hostility and tried to get along.
I get it though. I understand that he is hurt, and his ex-wife was not the nicest to him. But there comes a point in time where you have to move past it. And fine, if you don’t want to move past it for yourself, then do it for your daughter.