Yes, that could be the case. I’m just trying to focus on the now. I don’t want to stress about us, at least actively. I was just trying to get perspective on whether his feelings are gone or just buried. We are in therapy and we are actively working on positive interactions. We haven’t been fighting or negative for quite sometime. Despite the bad stuff, we have some great memories as well. It’s so hard to put that into perspective, but I can see how this may seem all bad.

Hi Anita,

You’re right, I didn’t specify his PTSD. He’s a police officer and without going into any detail that has caused a lot of emotional turmoil within him. He comes home very heavy and unable to detach from work mode. Also, I didn’t mention his wrongdoings either because I’m trying to take responsibility for them. As in most marriages, there have been financial strains and he caused a majority of them. He also became emotionally attached to an ex-friend of mine that I’m still not sure he ever crossed the line. He has also been emotionally abusive and neglectful. Presently, we are better in terms of finances and work together great as parents. I wasn’t the only one who was mean…I was physical. It hasn’t been like that for quite some time. I don’t speak negatively to him. I’ve had a lot of soul searching and changed my behavior. I’ve let go of the past and moved on. I no longer live there. I cannot say the same about him. He has other issues that he has not dealt with. I think my place is to be patient and supportive. I just hope he comes back emotionally. I do love him