I want to thank all of you for your advice, and Janie, what you said sounded almost exactly like what I’ve been feeling on and off, almost like there is no reason for the bad feeling.  Now, I actually spent the night with my girlfriend this past Wednesday, the 24th, after the advice you gave me Anita, and some of my personal friends I shared my feelings with, I told her how I was feeling and that I thought we should end the relationship.  I don’t know how, but I told her the entire truth about why I was unhappy with our sex life, which I honestly thought w as s impossible in the past based off our arguments about it.  I guess since telling her I wanted to end it made me capable of being able to be 100% honest about the shortcomings I felt we had physically.  She surprised me a little and actually listened and understood what I was saying, and now she’s promising me that we’ll do stuff at least once a week now, and I believe her.  I feel much better and no longer have those doubtful emotions.  I hope that we’ll be able to make this work and I think if we can then I think our relationship will recover fully.  I guess I, or we, just needed to communicate better about our sexual relationship.  I know I said in my previous post that we’ve kind of tried this in the past and it never worked, but this just felt more genuine between us and I really want to believe her, so time will tell and I really have high hopes.

Once again thank you all for your advice, I will definitely post again if I ever need any more advice.

Anita,

Thank you for replying, I’m just worried that I’m overreacting and maybe I’m just too worried about our sex life.  Our relationship as a whole is pretty great, we’ve talked about the future and living together and eventually getting married.  It’s just this one thing, and as frustrating as it is, I guess I’m just wondering if it’s the bases for my doubtful feelings about our relationship, or if a lot of people have these doubts and that I’m just overreacting about them?  I almost want to believe that you’re right and that this sexual incompatibility is something that I should end the relationship because of.  On the other hand, I’m worried that I’m going to regret ending such a good relationship over sex.  I’ve always wanted a relationship since pre college, and I’ve never had a good relationship, or sexual relationship with anyone until my current girlfriend.

I hope that makes sense, I love her, and besides this sexual compatibility issue, I feel like I have little to no reason to end the relationship.