Thankyou for all your replies. They have all been really insightful. I understand what you mean now Jan 🙂
I wonder now what your thoughts are as the story unfolds:

Please keep in mind that my girlfriend has a history of depression and has been taking anti depressants for a few years.
Last night she got drunk while out on her travels and ended up in hospital after opening up her arm. She called me in tears saying she’s going to have to come home early because she needs plastic surgery. Now she’s really upset and thinks she’s gonna look ugly and all that.. I reassured her but she told me she wants to kill herself. In the past she’s said she’s had suicidal thoughts but I don’t think she’s ever made a move.
I have NO idea what to do!?! Me and the girl are a great couple and I do love her a lot, I care for her so much.. yet, we virtually broke up because of all these little problems. It’s like we can’t end it because of the attachment and not wanting to make each other upset.
I’d love to say that I can happily stick by her and we’d have a future together but it’s just one thing after the other to the point where it’s bringing me down.

Hi Lisa, nice to know we’re not alone with these things 🙂 Thanks for your reply.
It sounds like we have a pretty similar relationship going on here. You’re not rambling, it was good to read your thoughts. We have talked about moving in together, one of our breakups was when I felt a bit overwhelmed as she pushed moving in, ideas of marriage and kids on me all at once. After talking about it she says everything’s cool and she’s not some crazy woman trying to trap me.. but, I still kinda feel like moving in together is quite a big step. I’m not sure how to get over that but hopefully I’ll work it out soon. I understand its controlling your own emotions and turning negatives in a positive – you sound like you have it dialled! I need to work in this a little more.
Thanks again, and good job being in the marines!
I went through selection for the Royal Marines here in England but injured my knee right at the end of the course. You have a good career! All the best