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  • January 8, 2016 at 7:42 pm #91840
    Will Moss
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    Never ever apologize for being honest! It’s the one thing that everyone should always strive for.
    You both still love each other, right? Maybe it’s good to talk to each other about why your relationship ended.
    Can I ask why you haven’t left your current marriage if there’s no more love in it?
    And can I ask why there is not more love in it? Maybe it’s time to be honest in that relationship first before you go seeking love somewhere else, you loved your current partner at some point, how did this fade, what can you and your partner do to make that spark heat up again?

    January 9, 2016 at 8:30 am #91876
    Anonymous
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    Dear Gilliam:

    Nice poem, some good lines there! I want to join Will Moss in asking about your current marriage and add: are there children involved? If you would like to share about it, examine it further… please do post again!

    anita

    January 14, 2016 at 12:42 am #92488
    Gilliam
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    I don’t leave my current marriage because of my children. That’s the reason.
    I am married to a person who has become inflexible and shows me very little respect but I put up with it and push back when appropriate. We don’t really have big fights or arguments. It’s really passive aggressive.
    She is a good Mother to the children and I do appreciate that but there is nothing left between us.
    I have no desire for her because of the level of disrespect. I have told her that she really hurts the relationship with her soul crushing resentment.

    BTW< I put those words to music… https://gilsmusic.bandcamp.com/track/dont-know-what-else

    January 14, 2016 at 8:30 am #92496
    Anonymous
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    Dear Gilliam:

    It is understandable why you don’t feel love for your wife. You sound reasonable: you told your wife that she is hurting you and her relationship with her “soul crushing resentment” (You are a poet!)

    You believe that she is a good mother and you see to it that there are no “big fights or arguments”

    To clarify, if you will, and I am asking because I hope to be of some help to you,

    What makes you believe that your wife is a good mother: what is she doing that is good mothering?

    Also, when you wrote that you don’t have BIG fights or arguments, what kind of LITTLE fights and arguments do you have? Are the children witnesses to those little fights and arguments? When your wife is passive aggressive toward you, is it possible they notice that?

    And is your wife passive aggressive with anyone else? With the children?

    anita

    January 14, 2016 at 8:31 am #92497
    Anonymous
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    * Correction: You told your wife that she is hurting you and your relationship with her…

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