Dear Jane:

To know “if its all in (your) head”- ask him, communicate back and forth. How will you know, if you don’t ask, how will he know, if he doesn’t ask. Talk about the importance of letting each other know what is going on. Talk, talk and then talk again…

Happy New Year to you too!

anita

Dear Jane:

You can bring anything up without sounding needy or insecure. You can say something like: “I feel fear that you will leave me” and say it in a way that is self respectful, not needy. Everyone is afraid sometimes. Many people are often afraid. I am sure he is not a stranger to fear. So you can tell him “I am afraid…” and even have tears in your eyes and still have your self respect. I mean, strong, worthy people are afraid and sad… it is natural and human. So it will be okay to express weakness- there is much strength in doing that. I hope I am clear here, I am not sure.

By the way “jessica” is a spammer, trying to get people to google that address and give their money to some magician, a spell caster. She or he posted the same post you got here all over the forum tonight, so please ignore it.

anita