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  • December 30, 2015 at 12:08 am #90894
    Purpose
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    Hello everyone
    Thanks for being so supportive on this site
    God bless everyone

    My story is , m stuck at this moment
    I have been trying to get into a course which needed lots pf hardwork n dedication
    Which i did, but as my result is out
    Im no where on the list of qualifying candidates. This puts me down, i knw my worth is not measured by my degree or my possessions
    But i have kept myself in isolation bcoz i wanted to give my 100% .
    In the meanwhile i had my friends getting married, frnz calng me for meet ups
    Which i refused(i attended the weddings,but cudnt enjoy as i found muself missfit in d enjoyment scene,only thing made me happy was smile on my frnz face bcoz of feeling of gettjng married)
    I told them u will b back as the same person who used to enjoy n hang around,who wud cal frnz n attend to theirs at midnight also.
    But may b the preparation time was one year n they cudnt wait, so they r not that supportive now
    I knw they too hav problems n challenges in their lives, i just being with them
    May be at this point of time ,i wanted their support n unconditional love n no complains etc
    Im really alone
    I have no one to cal no kne to meet n no one to think who can just listen to me.

    I knw this time will pass, it will make me stronger but sometimes u feel very wk
    As if im being starved of people,happiness friendship,laughter,,
    Sometimes i feel i do deserve frnz who can come to me n hug me n say they r proud of me as i tried smthng that was hard(my exams).

    In my weak moments i feel, no i dont want to b strong, i want to b happy
    But then im the only one telng myself to be patient n trust god.

    I read here ,everyone is going through tough time , i just want to feel ok
    I want some thing soothing to my soul n heart
    As i knw i deserve this.
    I hope i will get through this ,n become somthng m destined to become!
    God help us to find some relief,this pain n loneliness is unbearable
    Thankyou for reading
    🙂

    December 30, 2015 at 8:30 am #90909
    Anonymous
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    Dear Purpose:

    You invested your time and efforts in your career path and failed to be on the approved list of candidates for a program or a job, I am not clear. And while you did that, you neglected your social life, so now you feel without either and you feel lonely.

    I hope that you reach out to good people, to connect and re-connect. Unfortunately those friends that are now married are likely to focus on their new families. But you may fit in their lives anyway, and there are plenty of people single as well.

    We need to connect, it is in our genes, not to be isolated. Take care of that throughout your life. And wish you success in the new career choices you make this coming year!

    anita

    January 5, 2016 at 8:24 am #91369
    Purpose
    Participant

    Thanks Anita for replying
    Im better now. Thanks
    😊

    January 5, 2016 at 8:48 am #91375
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, Purpose, anytime!
    anita

    January 8, 2016 at 12:34 pm #91813
    Nekoshema
    Participant

    Little confused by your typing but I think your issue is comparing yourself to your peers, coupled with a lack of social interaction. Everyone is on their own path, one might focus on career while another on relationships. You may not notice you’re comparing yourself, but one day you will look back and notice it. At my low points I felt like a failure because I’m [age] years old and I’m still here while my friends are there. [Heck, I’m 26 without kids and the local paper has a photo of two friends from high school who had their first kid on new year’s day.] At some point something will just click.

    Don’t get discouraged you didn’t make the list. You could do a number of things from here, you could study more, evaluate what needs your attention, and work harder towards your job goals. You could view your life as a whole and figure out what you like and don’t like and work on improving them. You mentioned how you miss your friends, try setting up one night a week [if possible] where you guys can hang out. In person is always best, but if there’s an online game you like, or Skype or whatever. All but one friend lives at least half an hour away, and the friend who lives in town works long hours and has a 2 year old. I work equally long hours and don’t have a car, but I text everyone once at week. You might need to find this balance in your life. Another option is to find a circle of like-minded people to hang with and strive for similar goals. You can still have both groups of friends, but it never hurts to make new friends.

    Good luck to you!

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