How are they sabotaging your life exactly? If it’s a misunderstanding you could try calmly explaining your feelings and views, but be sure it’s the right time, try to be honest but not malicious, and really listen when they speak [Also, problem in my family, if there’s a tendency to cut people off, ask them to wait, or maybe try a held object, so people have to be quiet until they have said object] of course, sometimes it’s a deeper problem and you’re probably not in the best space emotionally, so if you’ve had years of negativity you might consider cutting ties for the time being. You might still love them, but they could be toxic to your recovery. I have that problem with my grandparents, I love them but they’re very hurtful on certain topics [They mean well but they belief ‘cruel to be kind’ you know?] If someone’s unwilling to change, you need to be a little selfish and heal yourself.

You could also try meditation, journaling, exercise, and doing things you love. I have depression so I know it can be difficult, but start small, put on a CD you like to dance to, or a movie that makes you smile. I keep a list with me of things I love [people, places, things, activities] and whenever I remember something I add to it. When I’m low it’s nice to read. [I don’t know if you’re the same, but it’s hard to think of something good when your on a down day. Just contradictions] mindfulness also helped me a lot, as did TinyBuddha [thanks guys btw] you might also consider cleaning out your cupboards and filling them with nutritious food. Kind of a no brainer, but the food you eat can effect your whole day. You don’t need to become vegan [unless you want to] I’ve cut out almost all ‘junk food’ and eat a lot more fruits and vegetables [I still eat meat but only for dinner] and I actually noticed a difference not just in my health but my mental too. When I was depressed I grabbed what was convent only to mentally beat myself up for eating a bag of chips [or whatever] which kept the circle going.