Dear heal2014:

Just because this woman accused you of whatever she did, does not mean you are guilty. This is not a good way for you to live your life, that is to take the blame just because someone hands it to you. Lots and lots of people would love to fill that role of giving someone else the responsibility for anything that goes wrong, and be “blessed’ with that person readily taking on the responsibility. Can you imagine marrying a person like that? You will perpetually be in the position of GUILTY.

Somehow, over time, you need to TAKE YOUR OWN SIDE in life. When unsure, why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt before giving it to the other person?

As is, it seems to me, you are an easy target for any person with whom you interact who wants the easy way of not taking responsibility for what he or she may be doing wrong and dish it out to you. You will save yourself a lot, A LOT of grief if you exit that It-must-all-be-my-fault role and remove yourself from being that easy target.

What do you think?

anita