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  • October 28, 2015 at 8:00 am #86307
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    Dear lightness:

    If lightness is what you wish then dropping heavy relationships out of your life will achieve your goal, of less weight every time you drop a Lose-Win (Lose for you, Win for her/him) or a Lose-Lose (Lose for both). Keep only the Win-Win.

    Evaluate what you need from any particular relationship, do you get it/ is the person capable or willing to give it to you as well as what you are willing to give.

    Some people have this mentality: they will use those who are AVAILABLE to be used. Don’t be one of those availables. You feel betrayed because you saw the people you were involved with and those relationships differently than what they were. Seeing correctly is key. Peeling of assumptions and inaccurate projections and judging instead by evidence, like a scientist. People’s behavior is not that mysterious once you figure the evolutionary and natural science behind it.

    anita

    October 28, 2015 at 9:25 am #86311
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    ah lightness – you’re a beautiful girl to offer yourself to others even when you were suffering yourself. Like anita says – they will feed off the attention that other people give them and you did well to be there for them and you did well to realise it was all about them and not fulfilling any needs in yourself.

    I fell into that trap once – people needed my help so much and much and moch and I started being so tired and haggard from one perso’s problems tot he next and thought’it’s not about me – they need me’ and in a shared house in the end I had a thing on my door of ‘take a ticket’ it was so endless.

    until one day DONG… this one IS about me and I don’t have the strength to help today and I said so too to the next person. I’m so sorry I can’t help you today – I have my own things to sort out today., and it felt amazing!!! WOO! I could pick and choose whose problems to listen to (because they were always there) and I dint feel like I was letting anyone down – I realised if they made me feel that I was letting them down then I found them to be selfish and they deserved to learn that I am not their tool.

    sure enough they just went on to the next person who would listen and I was off the hook.

    the answer is in you…. xx

    October 28, 2015 at 12:43 pm #86323
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    I am so sorry to hear that. You are way better than that, you don’t deserve it. Give your love and friendship to people who actually deserve it, love you and will fight for you too and care about your emotional well being. I’ve been there but your good karma will reward you later on for being a kind soul.

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