hang on a minute. and ‘Calamity CAi’ which is one of my alter egos. I’ll be the slightly annoying one who pushes people to check how much they believe what they say they believe.

No but in real life we don’t have to like everyone. Gads the TROUBLE I’ve got myself into in life because I felt I had to like everyone and really really wish I’d moved on and not stopped to say hello or listen or get sucked in to other peoples’ shite.

On Faceache I keep my friends down to a healthy 60 and even then often have a cull because I don’t feel the need to be liked everywhere I go. I am lucky to actually be loved everywhere I go because I don’t let people know I don’t like them haha – and I am veryu very unorthodox indeed.

so when I say everyone deserves validation , I believe that to the very core of my being, but I don’t see anything wrong with choosing not to be friends with people.

I DO see something wrong, however, in telling everyone you don’t like someone because it says more about you than it does the person you don’t like. it says you (a person) not only doesn’t like someone but will go out of their way to try to colour other peoples’ views of them too. That’s not cool.

Hello peaceful warriors ….your conversation is very interesting 🙂 🙂 I am wondering what I usually do in this kind of situation- I use to give extreme reactions and become cynical but with time and more experiences I realized sometimes we judge too quickly and assume too much , now I don’t jump on any opinions quickly and I take time to get to know that person – its an investment I know but it’s better to be open to experiences and real people in life rather than avoiding doing things which we are not good at – like socializing with real people for example – it’s a skill and it comes with time!

As far as emotional truth goes, you either have to be 100% authentic with you own self which takes a lot of efforts and honesty in order to be that intuitive – I usually go with an open mind and let people revel who they are and it’s not very hard to see in certain short time span! Hope this helps 🙂 Not to be friends with someone is different than avoiding things we are not good at 🙂 so we need to be honest with ourselves and take it from there! Otherwise everyone has a freedom to be happy and not to be friends with someone they don’t like 🙂

Dear Nekoshema:

All in moderation, so it is about being judgmental. It is saintly, i.e., not human to be non judgmental- it is for our benefit to evaluate people so to determine the extent of contact with them, to evaluate so to not be hurt by a particular person, for one thing. And there are many ways of getting hurt by another, so evaluating, or judging (evaluating without the negative connotation) is a good thing. Mixing judgments with some tolerance as needed, some empathy when needed or desirable or useful in any way- it is like a dish that requires different ingredients.. in moderation, none at the extreme, so the palate is not overwhelmed.

anita

Dear jack:

I like that, Lone Wolf Anita (belongs to the other post, how many of you are there), have the courage to stand alone.
anita