Leave him for the simple fact that he said this to you “how I feel is ridiculous”. Your feelings matter. If they don’t matter to him, then he shouldn’t matter to you.

Hi Zengirl87,

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It sounds really difficult. I think there might be a few things to consider. As mentioned above, perhaps you are a “great match” in some areas and not in others. It sounds like the communications department perhaps needs some work? What is the communication between the two of you like? Do you feel comfortable bringing up difficult/challenging topics to him? A conversation about your feelings and values might be a good place to start. Before that, however, it might be fruitful to spend some time thinking about your values, feelings and needs. Who are you? What do you believe in? What do you want for the future and is your current partner a part of that? If he is, then an honest conversation about his lack of empathy and how it makes you feel might shed some light on what’s going on and if you can work this out together. If this sounds like too much to do on your own, would either individual or couples counseling be an option? As a psychotherapist-in-training I’d like to share that this is not an uncommon experience and that there definitely are ways to work through your problems/concerns if that’s what you’re looking to do. It sounds like you care deeply for him and I hope things work out for you.