Hello,

After the end of my abusive relationship with my ex who I suspect was a covert or shy narcissist I was/am devastated. At one point, I told him I felt weird about a female friend that he had. She was a mutual friend, but I knew through other friends that she was interested in him as more than a friend. This is when things took a turn for the worst. I asked him to include me in some of the conversations or hang outs because I felt left out. I asked that the conversations remain casual rather than personal (as in about our relationship). Of course, my friendship with this girl deteriorated. Yes, I was a jealous person before, but I had never felt so insecure in my life and the fact that my partner didn’t share his feelings or ever validate me EVER made me feel even worse. I would see them hanging out together and saw them together more often after our break up. I recently went of a website that helps you understand psychopathic/narcissistic behavior.It was a terrible idea.

Now, i’m left wanting to communicate with this girl and tell her how horribly he treated me. He’s very quiet, so nobody besides my closest friends know what he did. I don’t think she will believe me either as i’ve heard her defend him before. Why am I doing this? I’m nearly 4 weeks into no contact with him after constantly trying to be friends with him and getting crumbs from him. I’m angry at this girl and angry at him. I’m having terrible thoughts of them being together. The relationship has been over for about 3 months now and i’m still suffering. I was doing okay until this thought came in my mind. Maybe I was thinking if I told her these things then she wouldn’t want to be with him. I’m not even sure if she wants to be with him or it was just my insecurity? What do I do? Of course, if she retaliated or told him what I said then I would be devastated. I feel like i’m sinking back into the same obsessive thoughts that had before, but now they include her. I will have to see him in person soon and it’s a work place event that I can not escape. I’m