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Trying to live a spiritual life, but feel worthless as a man.

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  • July 27, 2015 at 3:59 pm #80596
    Josh
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    Iā€™ve been trying to live a simpler life, but I keep finding that one thing always drags me down. I feel worthless as a man. I feel like Iā€™m worthless to the opposite sex, like I have nothing at all to offer. Iā€™ve been in a few relationships but every time Iā€™m single I start to feel so bad about myself. I know I could have a wonderful, spiritual life but itā€™s like these feelings keep blocking me.

    July 27, 2015 at 4:12 pm #80598
    Anonymous
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    Dear joshwa:

    This is a very powerful statement: ā€œI feel worthless as a man.ā€ This is a devastating belief to be carrying around. If this has been a persistent belief that youā€™ve been carrying around, I hope you can be helped by a good psychotherapist so to eventually change this core belief. It is a belief and I have no doubt it is a false belief. But it is you that needs to believe that you are a worthy man. It must be very painful to carry such belief- my sympathy. I do hope that one day you will find yourself smiling and feeling that calm, pleasant, warm feeling of worth, saying to yourself: there is nothing wrong with me. I am okay.

    anita

    July 28, 2015 at 5:31 pm #80683
    Adam P
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    Hey there Josh,

    I can see that fear is standing in the way of living a wonderful and spiritual lifestyle. Anita is correct by that you need to be the one that realizes you are a worthy man. It is when you are single I see that you are the most vulnerable and it is during that time in which you need to ā€œformā€ or ā€œmoldā€ yourself into a worthy man. Iā€™m sure you are aware that a man is not defined by the amount of romantic relationships he has during his lifetime, but rather the impact he leaves on others during his time here on Earth. A worthy man lives the life he wants and looks everyday for better ways to improve his already fulfilling life. Once a man realizes this, the rest comes to him in ways he could have never imagined. The only person standing in your way of living a simple, wonderful/spiritual life is YOU.
    Thank you and take care.

    July 31, 2015 at 8:17 am #80925
    Josh
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    Thanks so much to both of you. I know that I have a lot of work to do on nurturing a loving relationship with myself. Itā€™s something that I have struggled with for years now. Thank you Anita for your suggestion of psychotherapy. I would really like to know deep down why I feel like I do. Itā€™s like sometimes the feelings come up and I canā€™t even explain it I know that all of the bad things I think about myself arenā€™t true but sometimes it still hurts just as much. Either way my heart keeps growing little by little everyday. Peace šŸ™‚

    July 31, 2015 at 8:23 am #80926
    Anonymous
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    Dear joshwa:

    You wrote: ā€œI know that all of the bad things I think about myhself arenā€™t trueā€ ā€“ well you may know it on an intellectual level, with the ā€œrational mindā€ but not with the ā€œemotional mind.ā€ Unless you know something with the latter, emotionally, unless you believe it in your heart, you donā€™t really KNOW. You have a core belief in something that is not true but you believe it. Through therapy, good enough therapy, you will find out the Why- how it started and you FEEL at one point, you will be amazed, you will FEEL that there is nothing wrong with you- a totally different ball game of knowingā€¦
    anita

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