Quitting job and needing encouragement

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May 20, 2015 at 7:52 am #77002

Jaslyn
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Hello dear friends,

I am planning on resigning from a job that I have loved and that has given me so much for the past 5 years because I will be moving to a new location a few hours away (for my husband’s work), and more importantly, I no longer have room to grow and have been feeling anxious and oferwhelmed about it for quite some time.

I am set on resigning, I guess what I am asking for are words of encouragement in taking this big step with no job lined up just yet. I think that a break from work will be a great opportunity for me to spend time on personal growth, reenergize my spirit, and refocus…… But it is really scary to leave my safety bubble! I would love and appreciate any words of encouragement that you may have.

May 20, 2015 at 8:13 am #77006

Raven11
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Hi Jaslyn. I did this very exact thing about 15 years ago… left my job to move with my husband for his career. While it is scary to leave what you know, you are approaching this change with a great attitude. By viewing this as a time to spend on personal and spiritual growth, you never know what wonderful opportunities this could lead to! By allowing yourself to be a human being rather than a human doing, you will grow as a person. I think it is wonderful that you have this opportunity! During times of doubt or fear, pull out a pencil and paper and start writing down all of the wonderful things you want to do or try. Good luck! Be sure to check in and update on your adventures here and there!

May 20, 2015 at 9:13 am #77013

Anonymous
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Dear Jaslyn:
I like the way you asked exactly for what you want and I hope I will be offering you something that fits with your specific want.

You wrote that this is an opportunity for personal growth for you. Here is a personal growth opportunity: this fear you are feeling (understandable, natural part of making changes or accomodating changes)- feel it, relax into it, observe it in your body and learn how to deal with it, how not to over-react to it (catastrophize), feel shame about it, maybe, as in saying shaming things to yourself about feeling fear, pay attention to the dynamics of fear in you.

And of course, when it gets tough, this too shall pass. We constantly have to let go of things- the Buddhist principle of attachment to things- coming to think about, there are quite a few opportunities today, isn’t it so?

Take care:
anita

May 21, 2015 at 9:39 am #77066

Todd Corbett
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Hey Jaslyn,
You may be leaving your “safety bubble”, but if you’re packing up and moving with your husband for his career, I assume that he will be able to provide a new safety bubble for you. Think about the extra free time you will have until you find yourself a new job. You’ll be able to do plenty of self-examination, and maybe discover something new about yourself. Use this fresh start to find the perfect job for you. Good luck!

October 26, 2015 at 2:51 pm #86134

Jaslyn
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Dear all,

Thank you so much for all of your kind and encouraging words! They have been so helpful in reminding me to stay grounded, focused, and optimistic. I really appreciated having Raven11 to relate to, anita’s suggestion of feeling my fear as an observation and not catastrophizing (I have a bad habit of doing that), and Todd Corbet’s encouraging words about discovering something new about myself (and I have, indeed!).

As it stands, I’m still searching for a job, but my patience had recently paid off and I was able to apply to several jobs in the last two weeks that I feel be in a great position for and where I would really love to be working. I’ve been able to use this extra time for much needed rest and devote my time to apply to go back to school, which I don’t think I would have had time for if I were working. Lastly, I am counting my blessings as my husband recently got a new job and is more than happy to emotionally and financially support me during this time.

Just wanted to provide a quick update to you all because I wanted to let you know that your words have been so, so helpful in helping me get through this. Wishing you all a blessed week!

October 26, 2015 at 3:09 pm #86138

Anonymous
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Dear Jaslyn:

You are welcome and best to you. Your patience paid off, so more patience and more payoff then. Courage to you, give the test at the end of the week all you got. And make your Purpose Statement as much YOU as possible! Make it you!

anita

October 26, 2015 at 6:53 pm #86152

Saiisha
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Hi Jaslyn,
You got a ton of great advice here, so I won’t add more, but I’m reminded of a quote that I want to share:

“A ship in a harbor is safe but that’s not what ships are built for.” -William Shedd. So unfurl your sails and find your new land!

Good Luck!!

October 26, 2015 at 9:29 pm #86167

TriangleSun
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You’re stepping out into the unknown. Don’t for a second think this is bad! All of us spend most of our days working hard and you deserve being happy with the work that you do so if you feel like it’s time to move on – do it! There is no feeling bad about it.
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