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August 20, 2014 at 11:19 am #63713AnyoneParticipant
About a lesbian relation I broke recently, coz I am straight and couldn’t live a lie!
Yesterday was supposedly anniversary of our relation we used to celebrate; as she noticed that I didn’t contact in past 4 months, after waiting for my response, she sent a mail today to return my stuffs….My mind says it’s to get in touch with me. To meet me and give it another try to this relation. I’m trying hard to not feel guilty to be ignoring her for all this time.
I respect her immensely for everything she has been to me, and have also partly forgiven her for her flirts and lies, because I decided to move on and let her be what she is for herself, that defines her and not me!
But at the same time I am feeling so bad………why??? 🙁
@Jasmine-3, hope u read this post!Love to all….
August 20, 2014 at 6:48 pm #63734@Jasmine-3ParticipantHi Anyone
You are feeling bad as you have a firmly held belief that her state of being or happiness is dependent on your state of being.
Separate the 2 of you and you will realise one thing: you are responsible for your state of mind and happiness and others are responsible for theirs. We are not responsible for each others state of being. Once you start practicing this and make “yourself” as the priority in your life, you wont go wrong and wont harbour guilt or bad feelings ever.
Attached link to a well written article: http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/08/17/25-things-to-remember-when-life-gets-rough/#more-773
Best wishes,
Jasmine
August 20, 2014 at 11:24 pm #63741AnyoneParticipantHi Jas,
Thank you for your reply !I will incorporate this in me.
I feel obliged for the times she was by my side when I going through a rough marriage, to open my eyes and to come out of it. Not sure how can I repay this. I so wish to tell her that I’m grateful to her… but she’s probably not yet ready to move on….
August 21, 2014 at 8:45 pm #63784@Jasmine-3ParticipantHey Anyone
It is good to feel grateful 🙂 However, sometimes people are not ready to hear how grateful we are for them. When such a situation occurs, offer your gratitude in your heart and trust me it will reach that person. Once you fill yourself with love and gratitude, you will not feel any resistance from the other person (no matter how much ready she is not to move on).
But please don’t get sucked back into the drama of this relationship when things get better. Because if you do, you will be back to square one lol
Keep moving forward and offer gratitude for everything in your heart. The vibrations of positive energy travel faster than words or actions 🙂 Try it before you buy this.
J
August 30, 2014 at 12:11 am #64115AnyoneParticipantHi Jas,
First of all, apologies for late reply… I was preparing for certification exams recently.. Cleared it with flying colours:-)
Thank you so much for your wise words…
All is well at my end… No strings attached 🙂
Lots of love to you…:-)
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