LDR’s are extremely difficult. They’re great when you get to see that person, but when you part ways, and have to keep doing your thing, it takes a toll. I’ve been in 3 LDRs, the last of which I ended moving to the same city. It wont be easy, and you need to have a lot of trust and consistency to make things work. I don’t mean to be pessimistic at all, but like ALL relationships, they take work. Long distance just takes a lot more strength and patience. You can’t just fight and make up with the person and see them and hug it out, etc… When you fight in a LDR there’s this anxiety and frustration and you have to wait a while to have a face-to-face with that person. Sure, phone calls, Skype, text is helpful, but nothing can ever replace real human contact. Bottom line is it’s definitely possible, I just personally couldn’t handle it anymore.

Hi Big Blue,

I recently ended a long distance relationship. I don’t want to sound pessamistic or get down on you, I just want to be honest. LDR’s are HARD. I absolutely loved the man I was with, but he lived in another country. I travelled there any chance I had, we spent all of our money meeting up and trying to make it work for 2 years. It ended not because we loved each other any less, it ended because the distance was slowly killing us. It was turning us into a couple we didn’t want to be and into people we didn’t want to be. I love this man with my whole heart and have no doubt that if we lived in the same city we would still be together. But long distance doesn’t work. It is not a real, functioning relationship. It’s so painful and difficult. We both had the best of intentions as I bet you do, but the distance killed our relationship. Is it possible? Yes. There are some couples who have survived the distance, and I thought we would be one of them. But the majority of LDR’s end with a breakup.

I hope you make the choice that is right for both of you
Blessings