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    Kelly
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    Hi Shellie,
    As I was reading your post, I thought a lot about a website that I’ve turned to in trying to recover from my breakup. It’s called Baggage Reclaim, and this particular post might help you out:

    Boomerang Relationships & The Yo-Yo Girl

    There are a lot of good posts on that site if that particular one doesn’t exactly fit your situation.

    You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and won’t let these guys interfere too much in your life, so try not to let them occupy too much of your thoughts.

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    Matt
    Participant

    Shellie,

    Perhaps because you have a beautiful heart, and your love is is like a warm blanket. The more interesting question, why do they deserve your attention? Said differently, dogs bark in some neighborhood yard, but that’s not your home. They reach out for you, but its your choice to question and ponder why. Why even give them even that much attention? Don’t you have your own dreams to build? Things that your heart wishes you to grow?

    Focus on that, and let them call after you as they eat your dust. They only have the power you give them, so if you want them out of your space, just ignore their petty backdoor approaches… just breathe, move on, and get back to your dancing.

    If there’s a part of you that likes the attention, wants it… perhaps a little digging there would help. Perhaps “why do I pour my affections to unavailable men?” or “what am I hoping to find in their actions?” Could be some self esteem, lack of faith in love, any number of things drawing your attention toward them. What does it feel like?

    Namaste, may your mind settle and your heart open its wisdom.

    With warmth,
    Matt

    #55003
    @Jasmine-3
    Participant

    Thanks Matt. Couldnt agree more !

    Shellie

    Let your ex-BFs go. They are not hanging on to you but you are. It may sound bizarre to your mind but hey, ask your heart and you will find the same answer. Matt explains it more compassionately in his post above as to why we do such things. Things flourish where our attention goes. Stop giving this issue your attention and they will wither away.

    May you find the courage to move on to better things. You are worth it.

    J

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