Hey, I am that guy. Not literally.
It is part of the recovery. He is feeling strong enough to stand alone but wonders if the grass is greener on the other side.
Do not talk to anyone behind his back that may tell him as he will get angry.
Just let fate take its course.
Sorry.
Please ask me anything if I can help.

Replace b/f for husband and your life chapter is approximately 10% of what I am putting my wife through.
Fate my be real but do not put your life on hold.
Either take time to with good friends to move on or put it on the line to him and react accordingly.
Listen to John Newman – Out of my head.
Let your heart bleed so it can heal.
I am trying but drinking 8 pints per night is no answer.
To be harsh, you have feelings for him. If he really cared, why put you through this.
I am that bloke. Move on and find happiness. Please

Dear Green Fluff,

Depression is a mental illness and cant simply be cured away that easily. A relationship needs participation from both ends. You must allow him to heal at his pace. If he loves you and circumstances are sensible, believe me, things will work out. In the end, everything does eventually work out for the best. We dont realize that while we are going through the situation but someday you’ll know why you met him and what he taught you. Every end signifies a new beginning.

Right now, just dont drive yourself crazy trying to force this relationship to work out. Appreciate his honesty. Give him time to do that and take this time to reflect on a new chapter in your life. He deserves to be happy as much as you do. You deserve him when he has healed and is really ready to be with you.

All the best!

– Jess