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  • March 18, 2014 at 1:37 am #52945
    Nikola
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    I suffered from health anxiety for over a month, I was believing that I will die or I will develop schizophrenia.
    Many thanks to you people, because I am on my way to recovery only because of tiny buddha.

    BUT, this week is harder, this week I have some major setback. But, this time it’s not about dying (although there are those kind of thoughts from time to time), this time it’s more like a social anxiety. Whatever I say, in front of whoever I can’t stop thinking about that. Whatever I say in front of my colleagues/friends, f**ked up thoughts come in my mind. Thoughts of the kind like: What is he going to say; Is he going to screw me, Is he going to make some plot with the other colleague , Is he thinking I am mad or something…. Classic social anxiety 🙂

    To make it more vivid to you, we are 4 best friends and we hang out since kinder-garden, 10 months ago we started our own business and now we are in some crisis (lack of discipline and organization). So I am having those thoughts all the time, thoughts that we are going to fall apart as a team.

    But I am not that much concerned about the thoughts, I know they are anxiety and I don’t give a s**t about them…. I am concerned about the scenes I make in my head. Whenever a thought comes, lets say it’s a thought for something I said to one of the friends, I instantly start making scenes how we are arguing, different variations of the scenario, if he said this I would say that, if he says that I would say this bla bla.

    TLDR; Read the last paragraph above

    So I am looking for some tips to discipline my mind in daily activities so I could be more mindful and peaceful.

    P.S. I forgot to mention that despite I am working with my friends as I mentioned, I also work in my fathers company and it’s something I don’t really want but I don’t want to break his heart for now (so I have 2 jobs and the only free time I have I use it to meditate (it’s hard to manage and meditate in daily basis, honestly))

    Thanks as always TinyBuddha,
    You have all my trust and time to reply me,
    Nikola

    March 18, 2014 at 6:22 am #52959
    Chad
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    Anxiety is a physiological reaction of our primal brain reacting to a perceived threat, in simpler terms something makes us afraid. Strange part is all of these scenarios we create in our head are fears of a reality that simply does not exist. Its a perceived reality or a reality we manufacture by our imagination, fearing a worse case scenario, and the stress and grief we will have to endure by dealing with it.

    My heart goes out to anyone who suffers from anxiety. It can be an extremely terrible things, and you can feel helpless to do anything about it. You sound like you understand its irrational but want to stop yourself from even having these thoughts.

    I suppose the only way to cure fear of the unknown is confidence. Confidence that no matter the crazy scenario, you 1) will have to accept and deal with it anyhow and 2) you are capable and ready to deal with what ever occurs. If you stop thinking and fearing the outcome as life or death, your system will not perceive these threats as such triggering your anxiety.

    One think I have attempted to do to help with my anxiety is, be more present in the moment, and not allow myself to dwell on the future or the past too much. Ask myself how are things right now? be present in your current reality, not in the abstract one created by your mind. Secondly when I am having an anxiety attack, some additional coping skills I have developed are meditation, taking my mind off of it by focusing on my breathing and my current existence and centering myself to achieving this.

    March 18, 2014 at 11:23 am #52991
    Nikola
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    @here4now said:
    One think I have attempted to do to help with my anxiety is, be more present in the moment, and not allow myself to dwell on the future or the past too much. Ask myself how are things right now? be present in your current reality, not in the abstract one created by your mind. Secondly when I am having an anxiety attack, some additional coping skills I have developed are meditation, taking my mind off of it by focusing on my breathing and my current existence and centering myself to achieving this.

    Yea that’s what I try to do, but I lack of concentration. However I try to be mindful and focus my self on the present moment, even the tiniest disturbing thought takes away my mind in to the abyss of fearful thinking.

    I try to meditate as often as I can but It’s pretty hard with 2 jobs.

    March 18, 2014 at 11:34 am #52992
    Archie
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    You should try to talk about your problems to someone close to you. Perhaps they can help you to keep a check on your anxiety. Talk to your father, or your friends for that matter. Since they are involved in your life in some way, they can surely understand you better.

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