Jay,
You need to do some introspection and know if you’re ready for another relation. Has the hurt from the past healed yet?
Once you’re fine with yourself, you will be better able to see the compatibility matrix.
Come out of the low phase, be in a neutral state of mind and then proceed for the next milestone.
Because of what had happened, you are judging things a little too much, which is natural but be fine, be yourself, rise up, check if you’re low on self-esteem, gain it back if so.
It might as well strike…’what if I lose her?’. Don’t be afraid/insecure/desperate. It’s better to be sure than sorry!
All the best and good luck!
Lots of positivity to you…