Annie,

You make me smile. 🙂 I do not have specific advice to offer you however I hope I can help in easing some of your suffering.

Firstly, please learn to accept that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Every single experience you will encounter, both the good and the bad, will result in a lesson learned in turn helping you become a better human being. Hence, you never really lose. Also, hardships/challenges are a constant. They will continue to appear because they are necessary for our development. When they come, do not stress for it will not help your situation. When faced with a problem do we not usually try to solve it? *hint. Understanding and keeping the mentality that we are exactly where we’re supposed to be and accepting of continuous challenges will help keep us calm.

Secondly, please understand that even as adults (and especially so) we do not and never will have all the answers for everything nor are we supposed to. We do not know what the ‘right’ decisions are, we do not know if performing certain acts will yield positive results for ourselves, we do not know if picking a certain major is right for us and our future and we cannot know if any decisions we make will result in obtaining the best life imaginable for us. Any beliefs that we are certainly positive is an illusion. The only thing we can do and ever truly do is try for life is an entire experiment and experience.

Thirdly, please come to learn that there is no such thing as fear. Fear is an illusion created when we move out of our comfort zone. Instead, do your best to feel excited that a challenge (or lesson) has come to help you grow further. While not all (spontaneous) event is welcomed, it’s important to try and keep positive.

Lastly, please know that answers come when they are supposed to. A bit philosophical, yes, nevertheless, true. This can mean a number of things. Perhaps you are meant to have immediate answers for certain occasions or perhaps you are meant to learn a few more ‘lessons’ prior to you finding answers. With this said, be patient and continue to search when answers do not come outright. In the end, they always do.

I hope you will find some ease with this poor advice. It may also help to adopt a new mentality of life. A popular one is to simply see it as an adventure. Likewise, as most adventures go, they are not without both their good and bad moments. Nevertheless, the adventure continues. It’s up to you to decide the ending. So please, have some fun. Don’t let the negative experiences keep you down. Don’t rush for you’ll get where you are supposed to be when you are supposed to. Simply enjoy your journey.

Namaste,

Al

ps: I apologize for any grammatical errors.