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  • February 4, 2014 at 5:21 pm #50291
    Dee
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    I recently switched my jobs settling for a lower paying one as it was more in my area of interest. Things are fine at my new workplace except that my boss is overly friendly and I am realizing that he favours his females staff (particularly young girls like me) almost until the point of discomfort.

    He calls at odd hours beyond work under the pretext of ‘telling something urgent’.

    I accidently left my mail account logged in on one of the laptops at work last night and he called to tell me that he has gone through my mails and chats. He said he will discuss about them later.

    I am petrified at the thought that he had access to my personal conversations. I do not know how to respond. This is early in my career and I cannot risk another job shift. I have lost my sleep thinking about this incident. What should I do?

    February 4, 2014 at 10:54 pm #50319
    Mark
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    Dee,
    I am sorry about your stress about your job. Been there, done that.
    I don’t know if it helps for you to know that regardless of having a job or not, you will be OK. You will survive.

    If there is a HR department, I would check in with them before meeting with your boss and note your concerns about his sexual harassment (as you shared here) so that will be on record. Make your own note of the meeting as well.

    What is the company policy about personal emails? If there is not a written policy then your boss may just reprimand you. If he tries to use this as leverage so he can be “closer” to you then let him know that you view that as harassment then report that back to HR (without needing to tell him so he won’t try to change the story with HR).

    Usually for most large companies, they have a policy where you cannot use company resources for personal use such as email.

    Let us know how it goes.

    Remember Dee, you can deal with whatever happens. You are smart and strong. You will survive. Don’t let others have such power over you to stress you out or intimidate you. I know, easy to say, hard to do.

    Like I said, I know from personal experiences of losing my much needed job. I can and have survived. Once you know you’ll be OK no matter what then the anxiety should lessen.

    A mantra “I’ll be OK no matter what” may help.

    Take care,
    Mark

    February 5, 2014 at 7:56 am #50331
    Dee
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    Thanks a lot for your kind words Mark! They make me feel so much better.

    As of now my boss has left for a short trip so I have not confronted him yet. Lets see how things work out.

    That big fat dose of positiveness is all one needs sometimes. And I am so gonna incorporate that mantra in my meditation practise.

    Thanks again!

    February 5, 2014 at 9:13 am #50338
    Mark
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    I am glad my words were of some comfort Dee.

    I am curious what was the profession you left and what is the one that you are in now that is more suited for you?

    Metta,
    Mark

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