Hi Ringoo,

I’m sorry to hear about your confusion. I believe that each person in a relationship has a responsibility to be kind, respectful and to afford the other person the freedom to be completely honest about their feelings. We are all ultimately responsible for our own happiness. And sometimes we put too much pressure on the other person to fill voids in our own hearts. That does not mean that we should tolerate hurtful behavior from the people in our lives. …doing that would not be mean practicing love and respect toward ourselves.

Can you give me a few examples of some situations that have puzzled you in your last couple of relationships? Maybe I can give you a woman’s perspective.

Take care,
Annie