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  • December 30, 2013 at 10:28 am #47960
    Mark
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    I suggest that you keep up your yoga and meditation and make it a daily practice. It can only help.
    Why is so hard to help yourself? Probably because you feel overwhelmed and alone in dealing with such a situation. But in some ways it does not matter about the “why.” You will be better off focusing on taking care of yourself in the here and now.

    You have some sort of plan in splitting up with the sell off of your garden. You may want to keep moving toward that goal of divorce and take steps in making that happen, i.e. getting a divorce lawyer and finding out what you need to do. I think that if you have concrete things to do toward making your life better then you will be occupied in a good way instead of dwelling on the suckiness of your present situation.

    Make sense?
    Mark

    December 31, 2013 at 5:26 am #48048
    Kat
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    I’d like to comment here as my current situation is somewhat similar First I read he enjoys beer, 2nd I read he has been unfaithful. I not completely sure I have this correct, you now have 2 teenagers your raising yourself. The question I would be asking myself is do I need another teenager? If you could find time in your already overwhelmed circumstances find a support system, positive people that care about you and help you to be positive in your thinking and start to enjoy being you. Life is too short not to enjoy, Start loving yourself and fill your life with fun and friendly, positive people.

    My husband and I are still together we shouldn’t be tied together only because we both own this house with a mortgage I felt as though my back was against the wall and there was no where for me to go. My husband is very negative especially when he has too many beers, I found myself also becoming negative well thanks to family I will be walking away. I am seeking a good support group of positive people. My life and feelings have been negative to long. I don’t want my life to be this complicated. I am just going to walk away and leave 15 years of trying to make a negative situation a positive situation I believe it can’t be done I won’t look back as I move forward. I’ve tried that I do not regret and neither should you. You have this food truck you have an opportunity to be with people and make it fun. Yoga and mediation are great for you spiritually and do have a calming effect. JUST DO IT YOU CAN MAKE IT BETTER THIS IS YOUR LIFE< LOVE IT< LIVE IT WELL

    December 31, 2013 at 6:02 am #48049
    intheprocess
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    Thanks Mark and Kat for your support and thought for my situation. I will be back again soon, but have things to do with the boys. Love and Peace and may 2014 be a good Year xxx

    January 3, 2014 at 10:15 am #48266
    lovinggirl
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    Here’s how you take care of yourself.

    End this relationship. I find it very helpful to take care of my body (I dont drink or smoke, I work out religiously 6 times a week) – no matter HOW SAD you are just push yourself.

    This man doesn’t love you because he has no self respect and love for himself. this is NOT your fault. Its not that you are not lovable and awesome….you are with a man who is incapable of a real intimate relationship.

    Cut your loses, move on,

    January 4, 2014 at 4:47 am #48370
    intheprocess
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    Hi,

    I just been trying to write in response to your helpful comments, and every time I start on a line of thought, I end up having to delete it, cos it’s either me making excuses for him or me moaning about what is now involved in going our separate ways. I feel like I’m in limboland.

    Kat, if I wasn’t the one who came into our marriage with some financial backing I think I would walk away too, but we are working on not getting involved with lawyers to much, by coming to some arrangement between ourselves, although I am finding it hard at the moment to even look at him let alone sit down and work on it.

    Lovingirl, I think you are right about him being emotionally unable to have a real imtimate relationship. I could write pages on the ideas he’s talked about but only the ones that he directly benefited from came to any fruition.

    All comments are helping me see (in my darker moments) that I can and will get through this, so thank you again.

    Love and Light xxx

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