Perhaps, become a Light for the cousin by not allowing how he feels now to affect you in a dark way.

What?

Those who are insecure…and I have been one of them in the past…will lash out at those they see as happy and peaceful, perhaps because this is a feeling they wish to have. People who are insecure will reflect the disdain they have for themselves and their life onto others in order to feel strong…yet, this is weakness. This I know from experience.

Let the winds of negativity blow past you and smile as you bend while not pushing back. In your volunteer work, perhaps you see people in pain…see them wishing for hope. By your selfless work…you give them Light…you give them Faith in a better tomorrow. Perhaps, see the cousin this way.

I have seen it many times in Life: Negativity thrown at someone and the someone responds back with negativity. This will always be a whirlpool which becomes more difficult to climb out of than if the negativity was first responded to with nothing but silence and a smile. And it has happened to me in the past…in a very powerful and public way. What did I do? I let it get to me for a while…thought about it…and saw the poor souls who had nothing better to do than throw hate. I felt sorry for them and wished them peace in silence. The hate-throwing ceased as all winds will do over time.

Maybe the cousin will always be this way…but, maybe he will not. The cousin does not wish to be hated deep down…none of us do and I know from the way you write that you are not a hater at all…you simply wish peace and a love filled world where all humans can co-exist in an unconditional loving way.

Yes, it is indeed hard to remain calm when another attacks. But smiles are infectious in such a wonderful way. His pride is keeping him from apologizing to you…so be it…his choice based in Fear. Many will always wish to apologize to others over a lifetime, yet they will pridefully keep to themselves for a time.

Change will occur for all of us, but we all are on our own timetables. 🙂 Me? I’m “slow”…it took me fifty years to realize I was negative much of my life…but this is ok, Kel…eventually I “got” what the Universe was trying to tell me. It took going to sea alone in a very small boat and battling intense storms while there to understand the most important lesson of all…for me at least it is this:

The past no longer exists…the hate-throwing cannot be changed, yet it is no longer.
The future has yet to happen, so it does not exist either…you can create anything you wish and if you remain positive…so it shall be.
The only thing which is real is this moment as you read these words…a moment which flows forward with time.

When you are with your boyfriend and in the presence of the cousin…just be there with them…no past and no future, for they will not exist. Perhaps look the cousin in the eyes with Love in yours and smile. He may not…he may be confused by his fear. Remain peacefully steadfast with your eyes locked onto his and let him feel your kindness with your smile. If you feel a tear come…let it flow…he will see the real you. A loving human such as he…who wants the same thing in life. Peace.

Tomorrow begins with a little more light than today…
and each day after, the sun will be a little higher giving warmth to this earth…
may you be a similar light for all you come into contact with…
and become an Angel for someone who seeks kindness.

Blessings and Light,
Greg

“From now on, whatever aggression he directs at me, I know I can let it be transformed in my heart into compassion for him, and how desperately he needs to feel compassion and loving kindness from someone.”

Beautifully spoken Kel…
perfection…
through your deeds…
you will become a light for him to see and feel warmed by along his path.

you are welcome…
and thank you for sharing the challenge you face…
perhaps you have also helped another who remains in silence…

peace to you,
greg