My husband and I are 26 and 27 respectively, and as people we have changed A LOT over the last year (who hasn’t, really?). He used to be a musician and we were at bars/drinking really often, among other unhealthy lifestyle habit. To make a long story short, we have both stopped drinking excessively (him entirely recently, and I will only drink on a rare occasion–practicing my self-control and trying to deal with emotional stress/anxiety in healthier ways), and are becoming a lot more “mellow” of people. We are having a hard time relating to people our age, and even people quite a bit older.

Our current roommate is 35 and a total sweetheart, but she is a big drinker and we are often turning down her invitations to go out to the bars with her quite “rowdy” friends–it’s just not enjoyable for us to be around a crowd like that these days anymore. We usually thoroughly enjoy going for hikes, reading, that kind of thing–we have a history of being different from most of our friends because we tend to be very introspective/”deep thinkers” in general.

We are trying to adjust to a lot of positive changes we’ve made, while struggling with not feeling like we fit in with a lot of people around us. Not sure how to deal with these growing pains…I don’t want to give in to peer pressure just to be more social.

Any thoughts would be great!