Hi Eva

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through a break up and that one of your best friends was going through end-of life care.

To be honest, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong.

It sounds like his feelings changed. What caused that? It could be anything. It even sounds like he could have been going through a period of depression. Just from how negative he became.

I think your first instincts were right about not getting involved too quickly. It’s very easy for people to get caught up in the romance of the early stages of a relationship. That early excitement does pass, it’s a natural thing to happen and the perfect early relationship behaviour doesn’t last forever. He started to show you who he really was warts and all, not just the “perfect” side of him.

It’s amazing that he was there for you in a time of need and that he treat you well. I think you did a good job protecting yourself after those traumatic relationships. It’s such a shame things didn’t work out.

Wishing you all the best! 🙏

Hi Eva,

Oh my God I’m going through what sounds like the exact same thing.  Would be nice to just know the truth from him instead of getting ‘It’s nothing to do with you, it’s me.’  Basically he went back to his ex.  And yes professed his love for me prior to that, texted me nonstop, and in retrospect I suspected the whole love bombing thing as one of his ‘tactics’ to get closer to me.  I think basically I was a good distraction in his life when what he really wanted was to patch things up with his ex.  All of a sudden he was gone.  No more texts, no phone calls, no ‘i love yous.”  And like you I was very cautious at first then his attention to me drew me in like a moth to a flame.  I was seduced. and blissfully unaware until one day poof, gone.  I’ve been heartbroken since (just happened a month ago).  I so feel your pain, girl.  I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this too!!!!