Hi All,

As a person who has just started healing from codependency 3 months ago, sometimes I find myself in a puzzle..
Like, is my reaction just my old codependent me talking, or am I in my right to be upset about this?

I would like to know your opinion as I can’t think straight.

The situation in a sketch:

I have had surgery a week ago. Still tired all the time but besides from not being able to go outside alone, I can do everything on my own.
My bf since, has been taking care of me. Well in his own way. He comes to my place every day at 7 in the evening, brings food, we eat together and he leaves. (He cant sleep over because he moves a lot in his sleep and I have had surgery in my face, so we need to be carefull coming month.

Then the last couple of 5 days, he has had soccer games in the evening so I only saw him at 9 a couple days and other days I just havent seen him at all.

Today, no soccer game, he said, u kno what, im gonna come right over to you when I wake up, and we’re gonna hang out together. Because I sit inside whole day.

I told him I would like to do something like a movie marathon or something.

So when he woke up, he called me, said he was gonna be quick, to do groceries first.
Now I know how longgg groceries take him and I really could use to go outside the house, so I asked to go with.
He said no need, he’ll be quick.

He came around at 5, 4 hours later.

No worries, I thought, I was waiting for him to take a nap together, so I thought I’d have energy to do dishes and cook together when I wake up with more energy.

He comes in, starts complaining right away about the dishes and starts doing them.

I went to sleep alone. I’d been waiting for him all day and I was just pissed.

Then he comes inside, and starts eating BY HIMSELF.

I snapped…I mean, can’t he spend 1 day with me?
Ever since the surgery until today, he has been available to me a couple hours in the evenings.
And I feel just pissed because I would take care of him if he had surgery or some kind.
He comes here and sleeps after we eat then wakes up and leave.
Am I asking too much from him here?

He cooked for me the first 2 days after my surgery, then he said I’m too high maitenance :S:S I mean come ooon Ive had surgery dudee I cant get out the housee

He doesn’t have a job or anything, so he’s free all day.
I feel like I’m a burden to him and its a f’ed up feeling!

Please guys, is this my old codependency speaking or do I actually have a point here?