LDR’s can be very rewarding, or very hurtful. The emotional input you put in the relationship is way higher than when you’re together everyday. There’s no body language, which is proven to be around 60% of our communication. Words are all you have for the time being. That’s going to take some emotional stress you both have to go through and deal with. You HAVE to understand what that lack of basic communication does to each other.
You also have to cope with the time apart and to cherish time spent together. You have to build from those short(ish) expierences, because again that’s all you have.

Also, understand that an LDR provides an additional stress on the relationship; what are we going to do to be together forever? Emigration is a long(think years) and tedious progress, with countless months of waiting for the rights papers and documentation. Depending on which country you’re both from there are additional difficulties that’ll make it harder for either of you to move. And all the while you can only say ‘I love you’ on Skype so much without it being too painful to bear.

It’s a shitload of emotional and real life investment you’re about to embark on. Sure, once you see each other on the airport again your heart beats twice as fast and you feel alive again. But the imminent future for you two also needs consideration. Is that stressful path worth the journey? Can you wholeheartedly answer that question ‘YES!’? Than I say go for it.

If not, than I say calm yourself and be your own interviewer.

Hello Other LDR Goers,
Although my experience is not overseas, I have been in LDR for the last 14 months with an incredible man. We are lucky to see each other about once a month no more than 5-6 weeks in between. He was just here this last weekend and we had an incredible time together- always do! However, saying ta ta for now is not easy. My advice is to have another visit scheduled before the end of the current one, if and when possible. Having another visit to look forward to goes a very long way. Some other things my sweet beau and I do long distance are: read the same book, read out loud on the phone, watch TV/movies at the same time. Of course we email, text, Tango and talk nonstop on the phone. We set up time to stretch together and I would like to start meditating. I do long distance Reiki on him and I find that to be fulfilling. I really love sending him love letters/cards in the mail (kind of old fashion). If it weren’t for technology though, I would never attempt a LDR. My man read me an article last night about soul mates, stating in this day of age, we no longer need a husband/wife in order to survive (income, security, etc) because we are all much more independent. Thus we are not looking for husband/wife we are looking for a soul mate to meet our emotional and sexual needs. This is so very hard to accomplish over the phone, but when you love someone and believe in the relationship sacrifices are made. I have a lot more to say on the topic, but I must get back to work. Stay focused, stay faithful and use your words to meet those needs that body language typically does for you. Get creative and always let that person know how very special they are. Maybe I’ll write more later.
Kind Regards,
Peacefrog

I’m not even sure. I just broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks and we were in a long distance relationship.