Dear Sunny:

You shared that you are a single 32 year old woman, no kids, “generally been a nervous, anxious person.. have social anxiety, no friends, low confidence and lack of belief in myself.. my most predominant emotions involve getting angry or having a temper.. verbal nagging, arguing, complaining”.

As a teen you wanted to become a teacher but failed to get accepted to a teaching program because your “brain froze”. Next, your parents chose for you and you ended up graduating with a business degree. You worked as an Administrative Assistant until your contract ended a few months ago, and you are currently unemployed.

“I feel as though from the time being a young adult to now, I still have no dream, goal, interest, motivations toward anything, no passion or burning desire to achieve anything in particular. I don’t have any hobbies or interests. I don’t feel like I have any sense of direction.. as though I don’t know myself.. No real desire to command any action. Has anyone experienced this or can anyone point me in the direction of understanding this?”-

– Yes, I experienced something similar for many, many years. You mentioned that your brain froze: “my brain froze”. Like you, my brain froze too, my dreams, goals, interests, motivations, passion, desires.. all these things froze in fear. As a matter of fact, there are three reactions to fear in animals: Flight (running away), Fight and Freeze, the three Fs.

What scared you as a child, what caused you to Freeze?

anita