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  • November 13, 2020 at 8:06 am #369254
    Alisha
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    I don’t know what topic this would fit best under so I chose this one because the person it’s about is a guy I like.

    I have trouble with keeping up good conversations. I’m a dry texter and tend to talk about myself a LOT. I don’t like to do this, at all. I try to think of alternatives or just in general things to talk about but nothing comes to mind. It’s always bothered me but I never did anything about it until now.

    There’s a guy I met about a month ago and he’s really enjoyable to talk to. I love having his company and love talking to him, but, it never works out well. I rather run out of things to say, or nonstop talk about myself and stories I have. I don’t want to do this because I do not want to be full of myself and I also want to seem interested in him and his topics instead. When our conversations start to die out, I never know what to say to keep it going(He doesn’t try to make the conversation die or anything like that. He actually tries to talk to me as well but we always run out of stuff). Does anyone have any advice on how to keep the conversation going or how to stop talking about myself as much?

    November 13, 2020 at 8:33 am #369256
    Anonymous
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    Dear Alisha:

    “I .. tend to talk about myself a LOT. I don’t like to do this. I try to think of alternatives or just general things to talk about but nothing comes to mind”- ask him questions about himself, about his life.

    You know how it feels good to you when a friend asks you questions about what you think and what you feel about this or that? He probably likes these kinds of questions as well, so ask him. You can prepare a list of questions ahead of time, and/ or when he tells you something, ask him a question about what he just told you.

    If you want, you can give me an example of something he told you and I can suggest a question you can ask him.

    “I do not want to be full of myself and I also  want to seem interested in him and his topics instead”- talk about yourself less, and ask him about himself more. Make sure that when he answers your question, that you respectfully listen to his answer. You can then ask him a second question based on his answer.

    anita

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