Dear kofegba:

“I don’t know how tell her not to contact me again without sounding rude… Any advice on how I can get out of this situation will be appreciated”-

– consider that it is rude to her four children to have an ‘OFF and ON.. break up and make up” relationship with their mother (rude both on her part and yours).

It is better therefore,  that you sound rude and end a relationship with a woman with whom you repeatedly “don’t see a future with”, then it is that you behave rudely to her children by keeping it going.

I suggest that you tell her confidently and assertively: I am sorry, but this relationship is now over. I will not change my mind. Do not call me and do not show up at my apartment.

Don’t engage  in any conversation with her after that, block her from contacting you and if she shows up at your apartment, don’t let her in. If she will not leave, call the police.

anita

• This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by .

Dear kofegba:

You are welcome. I understand that you met her kids only once. What I was saying though is that even if you don’t have contact with her four children, for as long as you engage in an on-again, off-again relationship with their mother, you are contributing to their lack of stability.

I was hoping that this thought will motivate you to do what you stated that you want to do, which is to end contact with this woman and “get out of this spider web”!

anita

• This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by .

You are very welcome, kofegba. Post again anytime, on any topic, and I will be glad to reply to you again.

anita