Dear ToreiSan:

You wrote about your boyfriend: “He’s so capable, good looking, and accomplished.. I’m just some young black kid that can’t even financially support himself…Most beautiful? Don’t kid me. I’m puny.. stringy arms.. I just know a bunch of trivial sh**.. anyone can do (what I do).. he’s more successful, good looking, intelligent.. Damn near perfect. And me? I’m just some lost, scared little boy unprepared to deal with life”-

– You can prepare yourself to deal with life starting today and every day, observe people and situations, learn, and experiment with doing things in better ways, ways that will bring you better results. For example, regarding what I quoted above, it is better, when communicating with people in your personal life, to not put yourself down, to not communicate to them that you are inferior to them. Many people will take advantage of such sharing and treat you as if you were indeed inferior to them and to others.

You can learn how to share these feelings in a self respectful way, instead of in a self deprecating way.

One more thing: you are 25, he is 59. Do you not know how attractive youth is to older people, and did you notice that aging does show on a person’s body, no matter how capable and accomplished they are.. skin sagging and such?

anita

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