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  • April 13, 2020 at 12:53 pm #349230
    Anonymous
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    Hey Angela,

    I have a similar experience with a date like this last year. Like you, I refused to accept his sexual advances and he got furious. That’s when I told him to go to hell and never spoke with him again.  I never regreted that and so should you.

    There’s nothing wrong with you!!! You did great. You dodged a huge bullet. I also think he’s a violent guy and you protected yourself from future misery and abuse. The other red flag is that he was inconsiderate of you and that should have been enough to end the date right then and there. I’ve been to HUNDREDS of these dates when the dude is blabbering about himself and never get to asks you anything, or he just askes the bare minimum. Spoiler alert: never worked out with those guys. Good riddance! You’re free once again!!!!

     

     

    April 13, 2020 at 3:02 pm #349274
    Anonymous
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    Dear Angela:

    “he looked nice and smelled fresh and couldn’t stop complaining about his work.. He couldn’t stop talking about himself.. his face turned blue, pale, he looked really angry.. he was feeling dizzy and unlike himself, I’ve never seen him like that. Then he decided to get home because he wasn’t feeling well”-

    – it’s possible that he was on drugs, that’s why he behaved erratically, like you’ve never seen him behave before, and why his face changed colors and he felt dizzy and unwell.

    What do you think?

    anita

    April 13, 2020 at 3:15 pm #349278
    Angela
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    First of all, thank you so much for your answer Sofioula.

    I think you are right. People should never be sorry for refusing to have sexual intercourse. Even though he has some special traits that made me like him so much at the beginning, he did the worst thing ever. It was a bad move. Don’t you think we’ve had enough of people thinking they can get anything they want?

    April 13, 2020 at 3:21 pm #349284
    Angela
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    Dear Anita, thank you so much for your answer.

    Not at all, he wasn’t on drugs. But let me give you an image of what was wrong with him; when I met him he was at his last year of college which means he should look for work right after, enter the adult/professional world. He always had a way with his studies because he’s really smart and a fast learner but he never had any responsibilities. He was afraid to get into work life to the point where he wouldn’t even talk to me some days because he would be thinking about what’s gonna happen when his boss asks him to do some work and he would fail because he’s never done it before. He was anxious all the time. I honestly get that because it’s not easy on anybody especially if you are afraid of the future, but I don’t think that justifies his acts towards me as I am only human and I have my worries too. What do you think about that?

     

    April 13, 2020 at 3:34 pm #349288
    Anonymous
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    Dear Angela:

    No doubt you shouldn’t be okay with his behavior. When I read your account of his behavior, it seemed to me at first that he was under great distress, being in the midst of a breakdown of some sort, and/ or he was on some stimulant drugs. Reading both of your posts, I don’t think that the issue is that he “doesn’t care”, but that he is under great distress and is overwhelmed.

    You shouldn’t suffer because of his distress, of course, and never have sex when you don’t want to! A man who pressures you to have sex, is one you should never choose to be around; it’s a despicable behavior on his part.

    anita

     

    April 14, 2020 at 11:41 am #349366
    Madhvi
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    Hey Angela,

    I am going through pretty much similar circumstances. But for me, it is mental and emotional abuse. I couldn’t wage a war with an undeserving person anymore, and I broke up with him a week ago. I got to know from another friend that he has moved on to  another women, already! Definitely wasn’t easy, but I am feeling alive again

    In your case, when you know he isn’t the one for you just take it as a sign and run before it is too late…

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