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  • February 20, 2020 at 9:30 am #339172
    Anonymous
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    Dear Guthries:

    “if you are talking about some subject they don’t want to hear, they will cut you off quickly”- it is rude for people to “cut you off and talk about something else”. Sometimes I find myself impulsively cutting someone off but I don’t keep talking; I apologize and stop talking.

    It often happens that one person will talk about something interesting to herself (or himself) but the listener is bored. And if the person talking keeps talking for a long time, it is very difficult to keep being bored for a long time, it feels like being trapped and wanting out.

    Therefore, better talk in moderation, talk some and take a break, see how the listener responds: does he asks questions on the topic I just talked about, wanting to hear more, or is the listener relieved, changing the subject or excusing themselves and moving on.

    When you find yourself with a person who talks a lot, on and on,  and you are very bored, what do you do in that situation?

    anita

    February 23, 2020 at 12:13 pm #339634
    Guthries
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    I’m probably too attentive because I know what it’s like to talk about something and be ignored. Sometimes people just want to be heard because they have something they need to talk about. I can listen without interrupting. It’s amazing what you can learn from just listening to people. Feigning interest and cutting someone off which passes for listening sometimes doesn’t really do the trick.

    I’ve really wanted to open up to someone but I was cut off and dismissed before I could even do so. I didn’t even have a chance to talk on and on, it wasn’t that serious. If I run into some that talks alot that’s different than talking to someone who has something they need to talk about. Big difference. I try to make myself available to the person who needs to talk and be polite to the talker.

    February 23, 2020 at 12:34 pm #339638
    Anonymous
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    Dear Guthries:

    I have a pretty good record of listening (reading and re-reading attentively, then providing feedback) to members here. You are welcome to talk (type away) anything and everything that is on your mind and heart, and I will listen.

    anita

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