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  • January 9, 2020 at 10:55 am #332307
    Anonymous
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    Dear Lily:

    I think that it’s fine and dandy if you don’t visit your parents this year. Postpone it to next Christmas, maybe even later than that.

    As to aging parents not having “much longer”, being in their 80s and early 90s, this means that you are.. aging as well, in your fifties perhaps, maybe getting close to 60. You need to take care of yourself, your health, save your money for your own old age,  instead of continuing to pay for travels and accommodation every single year, when it doesn’t benefit you personally.

    Said in a different way: it is not like your parents will die and you will live for eternity without them. We will all die, and we are all getting closer to death every day, so take care of yourself, do what is right for you. And post again anytime.

    anita

    January 9, 2020 at 8:24 pm #332393
    Lily
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    Thank you Anita, I know exactly what you’re saying and I probably would give the same advice to someone else 🙂

    I am in my mid 50’s and even though I’m healthy and young at heart I do have to think of my future/retirement. Im a bit over spending my hard earned $$ to do, what at times, feels like a duty.

    Thank you again for the wise/comforting words.

    January 10, 2020 at 12:34 pm #332561
    Anonymous
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    Dear Lily:

    You are welcome. Please do post again anytime you need to hear someone (about your age!)  saying that you are indeed doing the right thing to save your money for your own future and retirement instead of spending it on something that feels like a duty, but.. is not really your duty.

    anita

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