Hi Kay,

Your story reminds me of that of a friend of mine. She had a few bad relationships and kids as well, she also had a very rough life. A broken single mother, she didn’t know what else to do. So I gave her some advice that stuck with her, she never forgot.

I told her to forget about finding the right person and to take time to heal herself…to focus on her well being, health, career etc..I told her to do things that she enjoyed doing, things that made her happy. I told her that the moment she was happy and content with her self and life, then the right guy will come along.  It wasn’t easy, many times she fell into the same pattern and she would contact me and we would talk for hours. She fell many times, but with encouragement she got up again and remembered my advice and kept on trying. The first thing she did was started to focus on her career..eventually found a better job, went back to school, got the promotion. She joined the gym and met people who introduced her to yoga and meditation..which she loved and it helped her along her path. Fast forward a few years later, in her 40s already…she was happy and content with her life as it is..she was not looking for anyone to make her feel complete, she felt complete already….and you know what! she met an amazing guy and got married and she is so happy. I met her recently and she told me that she never forgot the advice I gave her.

I would give you the same advice I gave my friend 🙂