Hi Mindy!

Awhile ago my main focus was purely on where I wanted to be and not where I was, I wanted to get out of the life I was living so badly.

I mean eating instant noodles everyday because you can’t afford real food isn’t where I wanted to be. I learnt something that really helped me focus on the now, and that was keeping a gratitude journal.

You’ve probably heard of this before, but focusing on the things that you don’t like in your life actually happens to attract more of it. Shifting my focus onto things that I did have, things like my health, family,friends and a beating heart that thankfully has never stopped since in the womb helped me keep a positive and hopeful mind.

Also I try and keep myself busy with my website, I read, I watch videos and listen to audios to improve myself every single day.

Eventually your eyes will be open to a whole new world of opportunities, ones that you might not have recognized if you were in a negative frame of mind.

Much like when you get a new car or a new pair of shoes and all of a sudden you just happen to notice that everyone has the same car. The cars were there the whole time you just didn’t notice them, it’s just a conscious shift. 🙂

Its hard for me to believe that we have all not been in a similar situation to you  Maggie. In fact my younger sister was in a terrible place a year or so ago and I spent a lot of time talking with her. Almost penniless and out of work, she truly believed she and her husband would be on the street, with debtors following their every move to try and regain some of their losses.

We discussed over and over again, the law of attraction– what you focus on you create. If you are grateful for all that you have (she was still in her own home, still healthy and able to go back to nursing, still able to put food on the table)–you will attract more of the same. If you dwell on what you lack, yes, you continue to lack! Living in the moment and appreciating that you have all you need and want enables you to change your thoughts and create all you want and need.

My sister is still in her own home, now has a good paying job, has worked out a debt repayment scheme and expects life to continually improve, which it seems to be doing. It really is as simple as internalizing “what you believe is true, is true”. If you leave the past where it belongs and believe life is good, I am positive it will be…

This is exactly where I am now. I moved countries to be with my boyfriend (I am French, but I was living in Ireland during three years, and he moved to London to get a job), and I never found a good job because I don’t have to relevant qualification yet. I struggle with money, my parents are able to help me sometimes but they also have their own problems and I feel very guilty to be a burden for them, even though they always make me feel good about needing help.
My only income is private tuitions in French, it’s not very interesting and it doesn’t pay much. Also, I have a different income each month as it depends on how many students take classes with me. I usually have enough to pay the rent, pay for transport… and that’s it really. My boyfriend works part-time and is in a similar situation.

What I find helpful, as I get very, very anxious about it, is to make lists of projects, constantly.

Instead of using my anxiety as an excuse to do nothing, I use it when I need a push.

When I feel lazy and worried and tired and completely depressed… I just tell myself that I don’t want that life anymore, and that change won’t come out of the blue. There are positive things out there and I have to get up and get them. I can’t afford to feel sorry for myself too long because I need to actually act and make a change in my life.

This is what gives me the energy to apply for training programmes to have a better qualification, this is what gives me the energy to give more tuitions even though I am also working in a dissertation in literature, this is what gives me strenght to get up and do things instead of “just” worrying about the future.

I use it as a push. I have a lot of hope that somehow, someday, things will be a bit easier on me 🙂