HomeāForumsāEmotional Masteryāi Crave having a girl to sleep next to, but i'm Prohibited, it's killing me
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December 21, 2018 at 1:51 pm #270363
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GuestDear poker:
I read your post and understand your craving and desire. How do other youngĀ men/ teenagers in the school you attend deal with this craving?
I wonder if you talked about this with young men your age.
I hope to read more from you when I return to the computerĀ in about fifteen hours.
anita
December 21, 2018 at 2:08 pm #270365yoker
ParticipantHello,
I don’t recall much but no one has the same problem, maybe because no one else experienced that feeling before..
I also talked to my cousin about it and told her how i’m feeling, how it affects me and the scientific side of it, but she made fun of me and told me to keep my shit together.
No one understands how i feel, not even me sometimes, but i guess these small things count
Kind Regards,
Yoker (With Y not P)
December 22, 2018 at 7:28 am #270413Anonymous
GuestDear Yoker:
I apologize for my mistyping of your name, and thank you for correcting me.
A little summary of what you shared: you are a 17 year old teenager, a Muslim, Egyptian living in Egypt, attending a military all-boys school. Egypt is 65% Muslim and the religion prohibits sex before marriage. As a child you and your female cousin slept together regularly until you were 12 or 14 without warning, that is, you weren’tĀ prepared for the change. You feel lonely during the night but also during the day, “I feel empty inside… like something’s missing… like I lost something very Valuable…it makes me sad all the time “. You wrote that there is something “so extraordinary about havingĀ someone (opposite gender) by your side”
You long for physical closeness with a girl of your age. Question to you so I can understand better: it was four or three years ago that the sleeping arrangement with your cousin was cancelled. Did you feel this sad and empty ever since, 3-4 years at this point, or did the sadness and craving increase lately?
anita
December 22, 2018 at 10:12 am #270439yoker
ParticipantHello,
That feeling started in about a year or half a year after that time, it wasn’t as sad before as it is now, but it kept increasing up to a certain point.
I learnt to just take the hit and keep the scar but i don’t like this way any more.
Kind Regards,
Yoker
December 22, 2018 at 10:32 am #270445Anonymous
GuestDear Yoker:
You probably know that the need for affection, physical and otherwise is a natural need, all humans need that. Other social animals doĀ as well.
Plus thereĀ is that sexual need young men and women feel at puberty, the need for affection and sexual interactions with other people.
Regardless of religion and country of origin, theseĀ needs are natural to allĀ humans.
If your religion allows itĀ only after marriage, and youĀ want to behave according to your religion and/ or according to your family values andĀ instructions, guided by the religion, then you will wait until marriage before having this physical need met, affection and sex.
Best you can do, acting in accordance to the religion/ values your family believes in, is make sure to chooseĀ a wife who you appreciateĀ and value and whoĀ will appreciateĀ and value you, the two of you trusting each other andĀ worthy of each other’s trust, kindĀ toĀ each other, patient and respectful, not aggressive. Then you can enjoy affection and sex for decades to come.
anita
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