Dear dreaming715:

I think it is the easiest thing to do, for a mother to successfully lie to her children. We automatically believe our mothers!

Yes, it does messes us up, “When you think something is a certain way for years only to find out it wasn’t real”. When those things we thought were a certain way are fundamental things, when we find out they weren’t true, that is like an earthquake in the brain, it shakes us. So we need time to let the dust settle, after the main shake and the after shakes.

Do you consider the HIV/thyroid lie to be a fundamental lie? In my life, a fundamental/ major lie my mother told me was anytime she told me that she valued me. She didn’t. When she was angry she told me that I was worthless. Then she told me that when people are angry they don’t mean what they say. That was a lie. She meant it.

anita

Dear dreaming715:

I just wished that you feel better on your other thread. Maybe this will, referring to the topic of this thread: if your fiancé never lied to you, if he is a truthful man, that is so very important, isn’t it. What a relief it is to be able to trust what your partner tells you to be true!

anita