Dear Julie:
I would say that you having a best friend who is “destroying my sanity, my peace, my emotions and heart” is having no friend at all. And not a soulmate. A friend and soulmates helps your sanity, peace, emotions and heart, not destroys those.
Problem is you haven’t been able to not get together with Adam. I would say, for as long as you are unable, better not get together with other men. Resolve the thing with Adam first.
anita