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  • August 23, 2018 at 7:34 am #222693
    pink24
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    Hey Amanda,

    I’ve been in similar situations. I will tell you this: No amount of money is worth your sanity. NONE.

    I’ve left toxic situations–and not easily, mind you–and I can tell you from experience that once you leave, new opportunities come. They just do. And I saw all of my worrying was for nothing. Trust the universe. It has your back.

    If you take the part-time job at the school, maybe another opportunity will come out of it, who knows. But only you know your limits. What you will take, and what you will not. Maybe teaching a subject you’re not passionate about is your red line. And maybe that with the fact that it is part time makes it less desirable. Does it? Or was this decision purely financial? Again, questions to ask yourself.

    But my only question though is, why would you want tenure in a toxic work environment? Like, why? You’re obviously a great teacher; you could get tenure anywhere including your dream school. Why sell yourself short? Yes, taking the part-time job is a risk, but you’re betting on yourself. Isn’t that a risk worth taking?

    Sending you good vibes girl ’cause I’ve been there 🙂

    Pink

    August 23, 2018 at 8:11 am #222695
    Anonymous
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    Dear Amanda M:

    I read your first thread of more than five years ago, and was wondering if it is the man you referred to as Pat on that thread that you married? If not, what happened to that relationship, if you  are okay sharing.

    I was impressed, reading your thread of long ago, how sensible you are, your thinking being clear and true to reality. On this thread, it continues to be so, thinking clearly.

    From personal experience, I am aware of the great dysfunction in school administration and operations and therefore I am not surprised by your account and trust it to be true.

    I understand that you already rejected the part time option, didn’t you, or is it still open? I understand that the administration at your current job cannot legally fire you and your retirement in many years from now is secure, correct?

    anita

    August 23, 2018 at 9:02 am #222717
    Amanda M
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    Hi Anita!

    I did marry Pat- just this June! Same man as the thread earlier.

    I did reject the position but I’m sure it is still open.

    Usually I can make a decision but I have spent two days worrying about this so I’m very nervous.

    They have already eliminated some of my classss and have taken away my classroom (something that is never done at my school).

    I’m so worried about the constrain of a part time and the uncertainty to teach something I don’t want to teach and find odd jobs after five years in the classroom.

    But remembering my administration and how had they would make every day and if they are already targeting me makes me feel like the year will never end and it isn’t started.

    August 23, 2018 at 9:16 am #222727
    Anonymous
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    Dear Amanda M:

    Congratulations on your marriage to Pat, how wonderful!

    Reads to me that your current position is unhealthy for you, it is not congruent with mental health to spend time repeatedly in an aggressive environment. If the administration was dysfunctional but removed, that is, not aggressive toward you, then you could focus on your own classroom and be somehow, somewhat okay with the administrative dysfunction. But aggression is a different animal, we need to protect ourselves from aggression.

    Is there any other option, other than the part time (and the current full time)?

    Regarding the part time that you rejected but which is probably still available to you: how would it interrupt your lifestyle, that is, being able to travel?

    What is the subject that you teach now and what is the subject matter that you would be teaching if you took on the part time, the one you are not passionate about?

    anita

    January 1, 2019 at 8:31 am #271873
    Amanda M
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    Hi Anita & Pink,

    Happy New Year! I wanted to write to you an update. The job that was part time my principal fought for it to be full time so I could accept. We really vibed! I left my old job and am so happy. I’m teaching part time a new subject after 5 years in one and then the other part time is helping my principal with projects around the school, something that is also extremely new! But I love it, I am appreciated and like the challenges! Thank you for pushing me to push myself for more opportunities !

    January 1, 2019 at 8:35 am #271875
    Anonymous
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    Dear Amanda M:

    I am glad you posted this update, and what a positive update, congratulations for making the right choices for yourself. It is a very good thing that you and this principal really vibe.

    Happy New Year to you!

    anita

    January 1, 2019 at 10:44 am #271909
    pink24
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    That’s so great Amanda!  I’m really happy for you.

    Happy New Year!

     

    All the best,

    Pink 🙂

     

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