Dear Salina”

My advice is that you choose your fiancé over your mother.

You wrote, “my family is my family”. Yes, but if loyalty to one’s family means the destruction of one’s life, then there is nothing good about such loyalty, it is not a good idea.

Reads like your mother is irresponsible, nothing you can do to change it. If your relationship with your fiancé is a good one, hold on to it, protect it, first and foremost. Don’t bring in a person into his home who makes him uncomfortable. It is not fair to him and will harm him and the relationship with him.

I hope to read more from you.

anita

Dear Salina:

You are welcome. It makes sense to make a healthy relationship a priority over one that is not healthy. A healthy relationship will promote your well being, so better make it a priority.

(An unhealthy relationship doesn’t promote anyone’s well being, not beyond the very short term).

anita