Dear Ramnayaran:

Maybe she likes skinny men. It is a matter of personal preference. The fact that she is significantly heavier than you does not mean that she prefers a heavier man. She may prefer a skinny man.

It is a matter of personal preference. You don’t like being skinny, she may like it.

Because you are worried about your weight in the context of possible physical intimacy, it would probably be a good idea to be intimate, if you will, in very dim light, or in almost darkness. That will take care of this particular fear on your part, won’t it?

anita

Dear Ramnarayan:

I think that weight matters mostly as an issue of physical health: too much of it is unhealthy and too little is unhealthy as well. There is a range of healthy weight for each individual depending on height and other factors. Following the issue of health there is the issue of personal comfort or lack of comfort, physical comfort and emotional comfort.

And comfort is part of one’s emotional/ physical health as well.

Are you wondering about the affect of weight on sexual performance?

anita

Dear Ramnarayan:

Healthy and skinny is helpful as far as any physical performance is involved, including sexual. I think you are in good shape in this regard, that is, being skinny and healthy is a plus for you, when it comes to sexual performance.

anita

Dear Ramnarayan:

You are welcome. I didn’t understand your question, can you restate it clearly?

anita

Dear Ramnarayan:

I remember you shared about her in your previous thread. What I remember is that this is not a promising relationship at this point, a maybe kind of a thing, very maybe. And I remember that you shared that she and an ex boyfriend got together recently, following the ending of their relationship so to satisfy their cravings, you wrote. She may still be meeting with him for that purpose.

What I would do, if I was you, would be to meet her in a public place so that an intimate contact is not possible. Meet her to talk, that is all. Talk, ask her questions so to understand her better.

anita