Dear berfiniel:

I would like to understand better, therefore I ask:

You wrote, “i’m desperate” – desperate to resume the long distance relationship with him?

The title of your thread is “I’m bipolar and he left me”, but according to your share you left him and kept the long distance relationship broken through five months of him pleading with you to get back together. How/ when did he leave you?

anita

Dear berfiniel:

A mental disorder diagnosis is not necessarily a life sentence. It is possible to heal. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder seven years ago. But I figured I exhibited the symptoms and qualified for the diagnosis all my adult life, way before the diagnosis.

Thing is, I no longer qualify for the diagnosis and haven’t for a long time.

These diagnoses are collections of symptoms, collections determined by psychiatrists. The core issues, the issues underneath, are much the same for everyone, mainly anxiety. I think that anxiety expresses itself in multitude of symptoms and collections of symptoms, aka diagnoses.

A mental diagnosis can be a tool for a therapist to start treatment. This was so in my case. And it worked. I am still in the process of healing from the core issue, anxiety and much progress is being done.

Regardless of our diagnoses, we are responsible for our behaviors, responsible to do-no-harm to others, for one. And so, if you were to resume a relationship with your ex long distance boyfriend, you will need to be able to do-no-harm to him as he reciprocates, of course.

Your thoughts?

anita